KELLI YOUNGLOVE

Do you know what a window of tolerance is? No? Don’t feel bad. I only learned about it a couple months ago when I took a trauma treatment class held by The NICAM. And guess what. My W.O.T needs some work. Let me explain. According to Dr. Dan Siegel (who came up with the term) a Window of Tolerance is the ability to feel, withstand, and regulate your emotional state. It’s about you being able to TOLERATE your feelings and the physical sensations they create in your body. And I

If you’ve been following along for the last couple of months, you know I’ve been banging the drum of a topic that’s very dear to my heart. Healing the Pain Body. If you haven’t been following along, (and don’t have a clue what the Pain Body is) I’ll sum it up with this definition by Eckhart Tolle: “an energy entity consisting of old emotion and accumulated pain” That’s right, sweetness. It’s all that baggage you’ve been lugging around. It’s the destructive patterns, the dysf

See that picture? That’s me when I’m not taking care of myself. Or when I’ve been putting myself last on the list. Of course, it’s not really me. It’s Kathy Bates, playing the role of Annie Wilkes in the 1990 movie Misery. You remember Annie, don’t you? She was that big-hearted gal who pulled a man from a car crash during a terrible winter blizzard—then took him home to care for his two broken legs until the roads cleared up enough to get him to a hospital. She was just so ni