People come to me for all different reasons.
But these aren't problems. They're SYMPTOMS. And they're almost always symptoms of the same core issue.
If you're not sure what I mean, here are some common identifiers:
an inability to experience empathy without drowning in the pain of others.
confusion about where your responsibility ends and another begins.
an inability to communicate clearly and honestly.
a compulsion to rescue or help others at the cost to your health and their growth.
an inability to feel or contain painful emotions.
a chronic habit of mentally and physically meddling in other people's business.
the inability to accept another person's NO.
a habitual over-involvement in another person's life.
the inability to set limits with yourself.
an ongoing drive to control the behaviour of others so you can feel better (which means you never deal with the root cause of your own anxiety).
the inability to set limits with work or authority figures.
saying yes when you really want to say NO.
personalizing everything—getting offended when others don't agree with you or take your advice.
an insistence of sameness—especially with those closest to you.
chronic fatigue or illness because your inner boundaries are nonexistent.
using guilt or anger to get your way.
Should I go on? Because I could. And not in an ivory tower kind of way, but from painful, personal experience.
At one point in my life I was able to check off every single one of the red flags above and MORE.
I used to be a people pleaser, a doormat, an unhealthy helper, an emotional amoeba, and a control freak who tried to dictate the behaviour of others.
I was sick all the time. I spent YEARS going to doctors and specialists seeking a cure for chronic sinus infections, painful stomach issues, headaches, dizziness, confusion, exhaustion, overwhelm and anxiety.
In 2002 my brother gave me my first book on boundaries which set my healing journey into motion.
Turns out, my problems had one powerful solution.
After years of special diets, vitamins, supplements, herbs, medication and rigorous exercise programs, healthy boundaries gave me the answer I was looking for.
And I suspect boundary awareness will give you yours too.
If you've been interested in the boundary course but haven't signed up yet, this is a great time to do that. I recently moved it to a new home over at Thinkific and have refreshed the videos, updated the material, and made it even better.
So let's take this journey together. Let's educate ourselves about healthy boundaries so we can create a happier, healthier, more humane world.
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Sending you so much love,